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Robert Wesley (Jr.) Graham

June 6, 1936 ~ June 14, 2022 (age 86)



Robert Wesley Graham Jr.

6 June 1936 – 14 June 2022


Robert Wesley Graham Jr., known to friends as “Bob” or “Graham” and to family as “Robert”, “Lumpy” or “Uncle Monkey”, passed away on Tuesday, June 14, 2022, holding hands with Ingrid, his wife of 61 years. He was born June 6, 1936, in Brooklyn, New York, the eldest son of Ruth Mildred Waide and Robert Wesley Graham.


As a young man Robert was a member of the Bay Ridge United Methodist Church and attained the rank Life Scout in Boy Scout Troop 214. Robert graduated from Brooklyn Technical High School in 1954 and enlisted in the Army Reserve and Reserve Officer Training Corps while attending The City College of New York. He graduated with a Bachelor of Science in Industrial Arts Education and was commissioned as a Second Lieutenant in the Army Corps of Engineers, in 1958. While stationed in Colorado he helped build the Cheyenne Mountain Space Force Station. Robert left active duty to marry Ingrid Maria Lindfors, the “most beautiful and smartest girl in the world”. They raised their three children, in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn.


Robert began his career in education teaching Industrial Arts at Madison HS in Brooklyn. He served as an Assistant Principal at Adlai E. Stevenson HS in the Bronx and John Jay HS in Brooklyn before retiring from the NYC Board of Education in 1991. He spent most summers in Middlefield and Cooperstown, NY, and refurbished an old farmhouse where he and Ingrid moved upon their retirement.


Robert loved opera and classical music but also would ‘cut a rug’ to big band, swing, and rag time music. He did not play an instrument but could whistle the tune to every song he knew. He enjoyed visiting museums and going to the opera although he was most comfortable wearing ragged painter overalls and work boots, (Not to the opera of course) He could talk to anyone, on any topic, for an unlimited time.  His jokes were hysterical if a bit off color. He told stories with a theatrical flair and explicit detail, that were often unbelievable, but authentically relayed the events of his life. Robert was always ready for a party and was happiest when surrounded by friends and family. He especially loved holding babies and playing with his children, grandchildren and his unlimited number of nieces and nephews.


Robert leaves behind his loving wife Ingrid, his daughter Jenny Graham, son Robert W. Graham III, daughter Kathy Dallemagne and husband Paul, and will be reunited in Heaven with his baby girl Kirsten. He will be missed by his six grandchildren: Lara, Caroline, and Graham Brugo; Robert W. Graham IV Magdeleine and Paul Robert Dallemagne. He is also survived by his siblings, Dorothy Brining, Kenneth Graham, Dianne Feury and husband Tim, Glenn Graham and wife Maryanne, Janet Graham Faure, and James B. Graham and wife Mary Jean. Along with his parents, Robert will be welcomed into God’s Kingdom by his sister, Linda Smirk and his brothers-in-law, Bob Brining and John Smirk and his sister-in-law, Lois Graham,


Calling hours will be at McNeil Funeral Home, 124 Church Street, Sneedville, TN, 6 to 8 PM on Tuesday, June 28, 2022.

A Celebration of Life service will be held at 8 PM

Burial at the East Tennessee State Veterans Cemetery, 2200 E. Governor John Sevier Hwy, Knoxville, TN, at 10 AM on Wednesday, June 29, 2022.

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June 28, 2022

6:00 PM to 8:00 PM
McNeil Funeral Home
124 Church St. P.O. Box 127
Sneedville, TN 37869

Celebration of Life
June 28, 2022

8:00 PM
McNeil Funeral Home
124 Church St. P.O. Box 127
Sneedville, TN 37869

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